Luca Bosurgi answers Quora’s questions about the mind, anxiety, fear, depression, addiction, etc.
Interesting question! The brain develops only because the mind develops. Experience develops the mind, therefore if depression has limited the daily experience, we may be under the false impression that the depressed has a less developed mind.
I learned with years of experiences working with depressed clients, that depression provides a different type of experience, more personal and very valuable.
When the depression is cleared and the past is capitalized, the survivors of depression as well as the ones from addictions, sever anxiety, suicidals etc. have a greater number of emotional tools comparing to a non survivor.
I cannot get out of depression. I feel so utterly lonely and depressed, I don’t feel like doing anything. Nothing inspires me. Is there any way out of this?
I’m sorry that you are experiencing so much pain, but I have good news for you. In my clinical experience with hundreds clients suffering depression, I’ve witnessed many cases similar to yours resolved in just a few weeks.
In my opinion depression in most cases is not an illness, it’s a condition caused by an overactive survival system. Meaning that your survival system believes that you are constantly in danger. This consumes in constant ‘fight or flight’ episodes all your available brainpower, reducing to none your ability to think or act. The obvious consequence is sadness, isolation, procrastination, inability to interact with peers, feeling overwhelmed and ashamed – a horrible muddy and dark place.
The good new is that as soon unchartered fear is removed, depression is resolved. So how we can remove fear? The origins of fear are either proactive or reactive.
- Reactive is fear responding to a real or imaginary potential danger.
- Proactive is fear activated by Adult Emotional Dependency AED, the natural behavior that keeps children in a permanent feeling of unsafe if unprotected. This is a vital behavior during childhood’s because saves kids lives, however it becomes crippling if unresolved in adulthood.
The reactive unwanted fear may be resolved removing from our unconscious mind the false perception of danger associated with safe items. These may be feeling, thoughts, emotions, or people objects, animals, locations, situation etc. that are perceived unconsciously as dangerous but logically are not. Often but not necessarily these are the results of traumatic events. My solution is to help with hypnosis my clients to remove unchartered fear, synchronizing logic with unconscious. This is a fast and easy approach, however many great therapeutic strategies are available for this.
The proactive fear (that in my opinion is the main cause of depression) may be resolved with a process of self-reparenting. Adult Emotional Dependency AED has been only recently identified, therefore at this stage, exists only my research about this condition and the solution that I identified. You can read more in the The Self Reparenting Project website.
How do you eliminate pointless fear / general anxiety without medication?
Pointless fear and generalized anxiety typically are the results of Adult Emotional Dependency AED. AED is the continuation in adulthood of Emotional Dependency, a behavior that force kids to feel unsafe if unprotected. This is a vital protection during childhood; however, if unresolved during puberty, it carries in adulthood the feeling of unsafe if unprotected. This produces a variety of emotional struggles including unchartered fear, anxiety, insomnia, addiction, feeling overwhelmed, procrastination, and in severe cases depression or suicide.
The solution is to terminate AED with the process of self-reparenting, meaning substitute our parents with our high-self. This a process that should be taught to kids by parents, to allow them to become emotionally self-reliant at puberty. Unfortunately most parents experience AED themselves, therefore are unable to offer these behavioral models to their children.
The good news is that it’s never too late to acquire this missing behavioral models and terminate AED. I’ve described AED and the fundamental steps of the reparenting process in the selfreparenting.org site.
Our body is equipment that we use to live a life on planet Earth. It’s built similar to a biological robot. The brain is our board computer, it stores, processes and interfaces the mind with the organs of the body. The mind is the software that manages every aspect of our physical and mental life. Instincts are part of the mind and use emotions to push us to do or not do specific actions. Emotions are an essential component of our behavioral system. You can see a blueprint of the mind here.
I believe that we are NOT our physical body or mind, we are powerful being, equipped with a well defined spiritual identity and a powerful spiritual mind.
The relationship that we establish with our equipment will determine if our emotions are at our service or if we are enslaved by these.
From my experience the cause of crippling anxiety or stress is fear. This, if exceeds the available brain’s resources generates depression. The mind in order to fight depression uses every possible resources to reduce fear, including alcohol and prescriptions/recreational drugs and other addictions. Therefore the only long-lasting treatments to depression, anxiety and stress are the one focused on removing fear from our daily lives.
The origin of fears are either proactive or reactive.
- Reactive is fear responding to a real or imaginary potential danger.
- Proactive is fear responding to Adult Emotional Dependency AED, the still unexplored hard-coded behavior that keeps children in a permanent feeling of unsafe if unprotected. This is a vital behavior during the childhood’s vulnerability, however it becomes crippling if unresolved in adulthood.
The reactive fear may be resolved removing from our unconscious mind the false perception of danger associated with safe items. These may be feeling, thoughts, emotions, or people objects, animals, locations, situation etc. that are perceived as dangerous but logically are not. Many therapeutic strategies are available for this.
The proactive fear may be resolved with a process of self-reparenting. Adult Emotional Dependency AED has been only recently identified therefore at this stage exists only my research about this condition and the solution that I identified. You can read more in the Home – The Self Reparenting Project website.